Just Another Day

With this being the eve of the holiday dread by many singles, it feels appropriate to address it.  I certainly don’t need a particular date to remind me that I am not in a relationship.  Sitting at home in my sweat pants, piece of Pisano’s Pizza in hand and reruns of Seinfeld are reminder enough the other 364 days out of the year.  Don’t misunderstand my awareness of being single with bitterness however.  At this point in my life I would much rather be single than settle for the wrong person.  Unfortunately, it get’s tiring playing the game though.  The game of numbers.  Not everyone you meet will sweep you off your feet and not everyone will be a complete mess.  You don’t know unless you take a chance and decide you are willing to give people a chance.  It does get exhausting playing that game though.  Most of us value our time a great deal, and it’s more than annoying when you decide to give your time to someone to meet for dinner or coffee and it turns out to be a total waste of time.  We would rather be at home relaxing than out on a bad date so it becomes harder and harder to put yourself out there.  It can be difficult at times to keep the faith that you will meet someone of substance.  As much as many of us want to believe it will happen, we also have this voice in our head that whispers, “are you sure?”  So when the world makes it’s rotation around the sun again and we find ourselves staring at February 14th on the calendar, many of us feel more exhausted then we are willing to admit.  Just another day single, only this one day it is put into a spot light.  So I say to my single friends:  suck it up, continue to swipe left and right, order another cup of coffee, allow yourself time and just keep putting yourself out there.